Why I blog…six years later

I remember.

I sat huddled in a chair in the corner of a play place immersed in a book, interspersed with french fries and pleas with the children to go play. I showered and dressed that day, of course. I even wore make-up. My hair hung limply in its usual pony tail. My outfit, my Mommy gear, T-shirt and jeans, finished off my ensemble.

I remember.

The children. There were three or four of them, I don’t really recall exactly. I had given up that day on any sense of matching. The girls wore ponytails that were now askew, outfits adorned with stripes and polka dots. The boy’s hair had been combed yesterday.

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She walked in and I tried to hide, hoping she wouldn’t recognize me. Her perfectly coiffed hair matched her gorgeous outfit. Her girls also wearing matching outfits, hair in perfect place. We chit chatted until I gathered my wild brood and left.

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I remember.

Wondering. How in the world was she so put together? How did she get her children out the door looking like that? I didn’t judge her, I envied her.

And yet.

There had to be other mothers whose experience in parenting included wearing snot as an accessory. There must be other mothers who had completely given up on matching outfits in order to maintain some sort of sanity. There MUST be others whose children write on walls and use dry erase markers to decorate the carpet.

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But I kept seeing these women. They were everywhere. And I was nothing like them. I managed to get out of bed every day, shower and dress and sometimes we even ate organized meals.

I remember.

Writing. At first it was mostly my Mom and my sister laughing at our shenanigans, commiserating. But after a bit, I began branching out and discovering that there was a whole world out there with Moms just like me. Mothers who didn’t pretend to have it all figured out. Mothers whose kids might possibly have even driven them crazy from time to time.

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I began to breathe a sigh of relief and let go of my inhibitions and embrace who I am as a Mom. At the same time, I began seeing the Moms around me in a different light as well.

I am not that Mom with perfectly coiffed children. I am totally and completely comfortable with that now. I still envy those who are able to make it out the door looking put together with any sense of fashion, but I have learned that even those Moms have imperfections. I bet they might even have a child who never, ever puts their shoes away. Like, ever.

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Sometimes, after all these years, I think I may run out of things to say, things to write about. But the grand thing about this adventure in parenting is that six years later, the children provide ample opportunities for new content.

Some things are the same. I still have wall writers, they are just different children, following in the footsteps of their older siblings. I have one left to potty train. (It may never happen, by the way.) My 4 year old can never find her shoes and has gone to church without them countless times.

Today, on my 6 year blogiversary, I celebrate. I celebrate the Mother hiding in the corner of the play place. I celebrate the lack of shoes, the chaos, the crazy, the thing that is Motherhood.

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I celebrate my journey to become the Mom and the writer that I am today. I celebrate all kinds of Mothers, truly understanding that we are all different, yet bonded together by the experience of Motherhood. (Potty training bonds women together like nothing else ever will.)

In honor of my six years, I offer you some of my all-time favorite posts. Some of them are from my early days and desperately need editing…and pictures, but I will share them with you anyway.

Thank you for reading.

From the archives:

Where it all began.

Things I never thought I would say.

The ultimate in gross kitchen floors and then the refrigerator died.

The Wet Game and Stop all the crying.

The time I thought my daughter gave herself a hickey, only it was ringworm.

Learning Kidspeak is an important part of Motherhood.

Have you ever heard a Pterodactyl scream?

The birth of Messy Monday.

Struggles of a SAHM

FAQ’s for a Mom of many.

The joys of potty training and the Tour de Toilet.

The Plight of the Naked Barbie.

The arrival of our #7; my natural birth story.

SuperMom Syndrome

The time my kids killed Frosty.

My own personal Pintrosity.

How do I Carpe Diem?

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Comments

  1. Oh my gosh I had forgotten about some of these, like the whole ringworm incident. I love this post and I love your blog. I have looked up to you my whole life as a sister, confidant, friend, and co-conspirator. Your blog inspired me to start my own, and even though I no longer have it, it got me through the first year and a half of the twin’s life. I am not always good at commenting, but I NEVER miss a post of yours. Happy Happy 6 years blogging. Thank you for making me laugh and for keeping me sane and making me feel things I needed to feel and to forgive my own imperfections. You are a talented writer and an amazing sister. I love you!!

  2. Six years! I always thought you were a good writer, but I must admit you’re even better now. When the book is done I want a copy!

  3. I love the photos you chose to go with this post. I’ve been in that place, where I seem so inferior to the other moms with perfectly dressed and hair-doned children. It’s no fun. And you’re right. I now know some of those “perfect” moms, and they have struggles, too.
    I look forward to reading all of those old posts. As soon as I’m done Christmas shopping for those long-haired, who knows when they bathed last kids. :)
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  4. Happy Blogaversary! I hope it’s amazing.
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  5. Amanda Preston says:

    Stacey, I just recently started reading your blog. I really enjoy it! I love this post. A lot!

    • Thanks so much! I have so enjoyed watching you with your little one on FB! She is adorable and you are such a cute Mom!

  6. I am new to your blog but this is such a great recap with so much honesty. I have long-distance friends who think we “have it all together” because they see the still pictures on fb where everyone looks cute and clean…but little do they realize how fleeting that moment was (which is why it was photo worthy)! We actually have daughter #3 due in 6wks and I claim to be in survival mode now! I found you by doing research for a new children’s product that we are working on that keeps kids shoes “peared” (our attempt to make life a little bit easier for us as parents) but now really look forward to following your blog!

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